Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Mommy Wars

Lately I have seen the topic of stay-at-home moms vs. working moms and other related topics come up in a lot of places.  I don't think there should be a "vs." at all in the conversation.  Aren't all mothers working toward the same goal?  We all just want to take care of our children and our husbands in the best way possible while honoring the Lord above all?  I think each mother experiences some insecurity about her decision to work or stay at home (which is definitely work as well!), which makes it such a emotionally charged topic.  Sometimes there isn't a decision to be made as most arrangements (unfortunately) are due to financial reasons - whether going to work to earn money or staying home to save money on childcare.  Mothers who work outside the home are always concerned that they don't spend enough time at home with their children and that someone else is raising their child 40+ hours a week. Mothers who work inside the home worry that their child is not interacting with other children and that they aren't financially helping fill up the bank account.  We all have different circumstances and life arrangements that best fit us.  We can only pray that wherever our family is, that it is a prayerfully made decision.  God has us and our families uniquely created to fit His sovereign plan for our lives and for His kingdom.  

So before going on the defensive when this topic is brought up, why don't we embrace the situation that we're in and lift each other up as sisters in Christ?  I loved my sister-in-law's post on this the other day with a quote about "good" mothers.  (Here's another article that talks about this topic too). Instead of slinging each other with mud and hateful words and looks, celebrate the role that God has each mother in and encourage her with the difficult parts of that particular arrangement.  It's easy to be judgmental and prideful and jealous in this area of our lives, but God calls us to a be unity of believers.  Each of us has helpful tips we've learned from our daily routines, whether at work or home or church or the ball fields or at the grocery store.  God has blessed us with one of the greatest gifts - our children.  Let's soak up every moment we get with them while they're little (and big too!) because they are valuable and life is fleeting.  Life is hard enough on it's own without the added pressures from each other.  We also are examples to those around us.  Some people have negative opinions of working mother based on their experiences with supposed "Christians" who act completely opposite and others have negative opinions of stay at home mothers because of bad experiences with professing Christians.  Let's honor Christ in all we do and be a living example of His love, lifting each other up instead of tearing each other down.

Go and hug your children and the other mommies in your life.  :)  And throw in an encouraging note or word while you're at it.  :)

1 comment:

  1. AMEN! I couldn't have said it better myself! As you can tell from my blog post, I have been thinking a lot about this topic too! I LOVE that all Mommies are different. How boring would it be if we all did the same thing!? ;) Love you Sis! You are a fantastic working Mommy :)